1. God should not be an option but a priority in everyday life. (I could have spared myself some of the wrong decisions, mistakes and heart aches had I constantly walked right with him)
2. Living in the moment and acting out of foolishness is not so wise. Yes! YOLO it is but every action has consequences you have to face after the YOLO moment.
3. That not every friend should be a friend. Unnecessary company leads astray and sometimes you only realise when you have been led far too deep.
4. Soap opera, Disney and chick flip love romance stories aren’t exactly how it should ALWAYS go in real life. God has written my own love story especially for me and I just have to be patient enough (don’t sweat it girl!!)
5. That family will always love you unconditionally and will ALWAYS come through for you, the differences that we go through are nothing but signs that we are just human but at the end of the day those differences are nothing. (I LOVE MY FAMILY!!!!!)
6. Trying to please and impress others will cost you a lot and get you nowhere at the end of the day. I didn’t have to prove my worth or campaign for Jesus to love and die for me, so I certainly don’t have to do so with any human
7. It doesn’t hurt to always wear a smile. There have been people I went to college with who only managed to gather the guts to approach me after a year saying they had been afraid to come up to me because I usually wore a serious face (imagine that!!! When in reality am the most warm person ever disguised in a shy mask mistaken for seriousness)
8. It pays to start working hard right from high school. I have missed some serious opportunities all because I never made good grades in my high school certificate.
9. There is more to being a woman than dreaming of a fairytale white wedding and a happily ever after. You have to aspire to work hard, advance yourself and make your mark in society, not just in the house (at least I got to learn this lesson from others, wise girl!)
10. Saving habits should be started from as early as possible, just because you got the money in your pocket doesn’t mean you should spend it all, plan for your shopping to avoid impulse buying. You never know when you will REALLY need that money....my momma taught me that, still learning it though
11. Your first love isn’t always the one you are supposed to end up with; it makes things a whole lot easier for the heart if you can quickly accept a failed relationship and move along. God always has the best in mind for you.
12. It is okay to be SINGLE!!!!! Sometimes I felt pressured to be in a relationship because of my circle of friends and family. For every girlie rendezvous the agenda should always take on the topic of men, what he did or said or got me or promised me or what he didn’t do blab...bla.. bla and the advice for any failing relationship is ‘ you deserve better move on and find another man’ . It is only recently that God has taught me that hopping from one relationship to another isn’t the cure for a heartbreak or to fill the need to be loved. and that the best relationship I can ever have is first with God and loving myself enough to be in a relationship with me before I can go on to loving another human being unconditionally and without reservation.
13. The notions of bitter and disappointed women that “all men are the same”, “all men are dogs” and so on are not entirely true. Just because there are some bad seeds don’t mean all the rest are spoilt too. There are plenty of good, faithful and God fearing men out there. Not that they are perfect but that when they fail or make mistakes, the godly conviction in them will make them realise it and repent and make things right, not covering up their sins with lies and deception. (I so know God will lead me to that man ... patience darling!)
14. As much as I aspire greatness in my own right and way and if it so happens that I end up doing better than the man ill spend my entire life with, I don’t have to lose the respect I need to accord him as the MAN and head of our house!!! (it’s how I understand it )
15. How you dress has a lot to say about who you are and how you want people, especially men to approach and treat you.. ... in all fashion and glamour endeavours, modesty should be kept in mind .(i gush at myself when i think of how i used to flash my cleavage *covers face* lol )
16. Drinking your head off is not the way to have fun and chill over the weekend. Getting to hang out with drunken people with a clear mind just made me see how reckless and foolish people can get (i used to get i must say), even more disheartening if they are people old enough to be your grandfather or mother. Losing my self respect certainly isn’t worth the shots or bottles. It’s a shame that people can speak so highly of alcohol, when in Africa its one of the leading causes of broken homes and a counter to productivity and progress. (Find me on the weekend raising my coffee mug up, cheers to that: D)
17. That there is no such thing as being overly ambitious. People with mediocre minds will always want to bring you down to their level by making you feel inferior.
18. Better early than sorry. You don’t lose anything by being early but being late could cost you much.
19. Having the looks and image is nothing if your personality and inside don’t go with it. (beauty is vain but the woman who fears the LORD shall be praised)
20. You can’t always run around in heels just because you want to feel on top of your game and look the look, sometimes a flat shoe can enable you to achieve so much in a day and avoid the achy toes and blisters at the end of the day:p
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